It’s for certain that this Thanksgiving was the best one yet, and the biggest reason behind my saying that is my son. I cannot emphasize enough how my son has changed me for the better. The same feelings apply towards my husband and father to my son. I would’t say that I was lost before I had these two in my life, but I certainly wasn’t happy. I had just ended a long term relationship that left me feeling lonely and uncertain for my future. The only thing that was certain is that I was strong willed and determined to push forward in a positive direction. I’m so glad that things works out the way that they did because my life is pretty perfect. There may be outside factors that try to affect my personal life, and I have had to realize that my family is first and foremost, always with zero exceptions. And this will remain the same forever because at the end of the day I have my family there when all else fails. So, this Thanksgiving I was fortunate to spend a few days with family and most importantly my son and my husband. They are truly the highlight of my life.I hope that someday I can repay them for what they have given me, but until that time I will do everything in my power to show them just how much they mean to me. Hope you and yours had a wonderful Thanksgiving!
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God, help me to focus on Truth instead of trial. Help me to give thanks instead of giving into fear. Help me to choose joy instead of anger. Help me to trust in your power instead of my plan. Help me to elevate your name instead of my own.
This week has certainly tested my patience and faith. It has been one of thee most frustrating and trying weeks I have ever experienced. I won’t go into much detail, but instead give thanks to the positive and wonderful things in my life. I find this fitting considering that tomorrow is Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving in a joyous occasion most often celebrated with friends and family giving thanks for the harvest and the preceding year. It’s a time for reminiscing and remembering all the glorious events that transpired throughout the year. I, for one, have many things to be thankful for, and I shall share a few with you.
First and foremost, the #1 highlight of this year was the birth of my first child, a son, Braxton. He is the highlight of my day each and every day. He has brought an tremendous amount of love and joy into my life as well as Jason’s and there is not a day that goes by that I regret becoming a mother.
Secondly, I am so fortunate to have such a supportive and loving husband. We have accomplished so much this year, and although we don’t see each other much and we have our fair share of disagreements, I wouldn’t trade the life we have built together for anything. I am thankful I have found the man I truly love and wouldn’t go through this life with any other partner but him by my side.
Third, I am so fortunate to have built an unbreakable bond with my sister, Christy. We weren’t always the closest, but this past year we have become the absolute best of friends. She has pushed me to achieve so many goals this year and has been an inspiration for me to be the best I can be as a business professional, a mother, a wife and a friend. I honestly don’t know what I would do without her.
Fourth, I am fortunate for the rest of my family. Although my family is spread around the U.S, I am fortunate to have both sisters near by as well as my father. My mother lives in Florida but bless her soul she has visited twice this year, and what a blessing she is. I am also so thankful for my in-laws and extended family. I have an amazing support system.
Fifth, I am thankful for career I have built and the goals I have accomplished. I have grown so much this year, and I am only growing and maturing more while mastering different areas in my life. I have become more confident, independent, goal-oriented and more of a leader. I am proud of who I have become this past year, and although I’m not where I want to be just yet, I’m damn near close. I won’t stop until I get there.
Sometimes it’s hard to see all of the amazing things happening in my life because those good things are so easily shrouded with all of the negativity that surrounds us all. We live in violent times, scary times and the news reports on those things instead of highlighting the good that does exist. I am working on focusing on the good and distancing myself from the negative. My life is too good to let the bad affect it.
I hope that you all take a few minutes to really focus on the things or people you are thankful for. As we gather tomorrow with our dear ones, let us cherish the time spent together, and let it act as a reminder to be thankful for what we have that others may not have. Let tomorrow be a day where you have not a worry in the world and enjoy time away from work and the violence going on around the world. Make memories, laugh a lot, love with everything you have and live.
I leave you with this, Collossians 3:15-17 “And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.”
God Bless, and Happy Thanksgiving.
Until next time,
A week or so ago, I went to the doctor because I had discovered a lump. Yes, a lump in my breast. At the ripe age of 28, I had found a lump. I called my doctor a week later (once I scrounged up the courage to do so) and went in for an exam. Two days later, I was getting a mammogram. There are a lot of things that run through your head when you’re in that kind of situation. My grandfather had suffered from Breast Cancer–yes, my GRANDFATHER. He would eventually lose the battle from breast cancer coupled with lung cancer. I also had an aunt that had it, but is in remission. My mother had skin cancer which had spread to lymph-nodes and had to undergo chemotherapy. She, too, is in remission. Cancer has affected numerous family members, so that fact only added to my fear and anxiety. Although I had pretty much convinced myself that this lump was a result of abnormal hormones, there was still that fear of “what could be”. Fortunately, my sneaking suspicion was correct when the doctor ruled out breast cancer. There was certainly a lump present but it was benign, and my rib was also being felt around the lump which only made the lump stick out more upon self-exam. Ladies (& men), my advice to you: 1) conduct a self-exam monthly- it’s imperative to play an active role in your health and by conducting these exams, you can ensure that you understand your body and can signal out when there is something abnormal, and 2) don’t be scared to go to the doctors because you’re scared of finding out the results-do it for you and do it for your family. You will never regret making that decision.
Attached in the entry is some helpful tips when conducting a breast self-exam.
Until next time,
First and foremost, I’d like to say that I truly LOVE being a mother, and secondly I do not regret becoming a mother but dear Lord have I struggled with balancing the many roles of ME. I commend all of those “working Moms” for more reasons than one. I oftentimes find myself having a difficult time with balancing the responsibilities of being a mother, a business professional and a wife. It seems as though it is impossible to give 100% to each role. Mothers, am I right? My day is a routine with hardly any variances (unless I’m traveling for work or attending a business function). My alarm sounds off at 6am and my day starts and it doesn’t end until 9 or 10pm each night. How anyone has time left over for “fun” time is beyond me! I find myself thinking about work when I’m with my family but then thinking about my family while I’m at work and although I believe this to be very typical, I hate that feeling. I often find myself wondering if I’m barely scraping by. Meaning, I wonder if my boss thinks I’m a terrible employee and/or if my husband finds me to be more of a room mate than a partner. I don’t think these are the cases by any means, but my goodness I’d be lying if that thought hadn’t cross my mind once or twice before. I want to put 100% into being a business professional, a mother and a wife, but I humbling announce that I do not know how to accomplish such a feat. Is it even possible or am I fighting for an unrealistic cause? On top of that normal routine, I also work a second job as a semi-professional photographer so my spare time (Ha Ha Ha, I laugh because when you’re a mom, there is no such thing as spare time) is partially being devoted to photo shoots and editing. Call me crazy busy, but I’m also a craft-making freak as well as being an author (who has been published a handful of times) working on a novel. Again, remind me what “fun” time is. I know there has to be a productive way of developing and implementing balance in my life, but again this has not come easy to me thus far. I can research ways to do this and ask friends in similar situations, but I find that every situation is different and unique thus creating a difficult time determining a solution. Am I the only person that feels over-extended? Do any other moms out there struggle with this sense of wanting equality in work and home-life (including being a mom and wife)?
This sweet boy of ours is celebrating 8 months of life today! He has been an absolute blessing to Jason and I! Ever since he came into our lives, we have embraced parenthood with open arms, and although we may not always have it right, he loves us just the same. The best part of my day consists of my son. From the moment he wakes me up to the moment I put him to bed at night, I’m amazed by the mere fact that when I watch my sweet boy playing or sleeping, I nearly cry realizing how blessed I am to be his mom. Hard to believe we are approaching some of our favorite Holidays, and we are so happy to have Braxton celebrate with us this year! I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, but I LOVE being a mom ESPECIALLY his MOM.. It’s the best job in the world.