Be A Kind Wife

I’d like to think that I make my husband a priority, but when I really think about it, I realize I do put a lot of things before him. I feel more disconnected from him the more I push him down my priority list. I don’t think it’s something I do intentionally, but  it does happen.


Life is busy! We have a three year old and another little boy on the way, we have our jobs, family, friends, projects, to-do lists, errands, bills, workouts etc., and it’s easy to get so caught up in these things that we lose sight of what is truly important. We try to seek balance by clearing our plate from time to time, but sometimes that’s not easy.  I think it’s incredibly important to prioritize our husbands. I know how great it feels when he makes me a priority, so it’s only fair to do the same for him.

I’ve been really thinking about what it means to be a kind wife lately, and I’ve come up with a few recommendations to do just that. I challenge you to be kind to your husband.

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6 Ways to Induce Labor Naturally

It’s your due date, and you’re beyond ready to have your baby! You’re probably asking yourself, “will I be pregnant forever?”  The waiting game is no joke. Fortunately for me with my first son, I went into labor 16 days early, which I was completely okay with, but I do credit several things for helping move along the process.


I’ve included some things I tried the night my water broke as well as some additional suggestions that other moms swear by!

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Raising a Toddler while Pregnant: How to Stay Sane

I never realized how difficult it would be to care for a toddler while growing another human being in the womb. I always knew having two children would be more challenging, but I didn’t realize how difficult once some-what simple tasks would become and how my time would suddenly be required to be spent more wisely and managed differently. Making time to work a full-time job, run a business of my own, perform normal house tasks as well as playing with my already demanding three year old has proved to be difficult especially as I attempt to care for the new life growing inside my body.

Why has it been so challenging?

Lets explore a handful of reasons:

  • coping with morning sickness. that fortunately hasn’t been AS bad as it was during my first pregnancy, but nonetheless very much present
  • getting adequate sleep is non-existent when your three old wants to wake up between 5-6 am every morning and you already sleep like garbage because of being pregnant
  • finding time to eat nutritious and balanced meals while incorporating workouts into your routine has become a struggle
  • cooking meals for yourself and your family when you’re trying to do a million other things on top of having weird food aversions during pregnancy
  • performing routine house tasks whilst dealing with morning sickness, body aches, a massive belly and an active three year old has become nearly impossible

Some people have no idea how truly difficult it is to  have a toddler in the midst of the “trying threes” while trying to maintain a healthy pregnancy. It’s HARD. That said, here are a few tips for other moms going through the same thing! Hopefully they help you maintain a level of sanity.

Find your Toddler Activities that will keep them Busy

The more independent your toddler is, the more you’re able to get accomplished throughout your day. Set up activities they are sure to enjoy. For instance, legos keep my son busy for hours. Put the legos on the table and let him go at it.


Lose the Expectations

Your home will never be clean again. No matter what you tell yourself or how often you clean, you must realize that a messy house is the new norm.You’re busy, so trying to constantly maintain an immaculate home is unrealistic and will only add stress to your day.

Ask for Help

Don’t be afraid to ask for help. There will be days when you will feel incredibly overwhelmed or tired, and it’s important that you take time for yourself. If you have a day like this, don’t feel bad because it’s completely normal. Don’t be afraid to reach out to a family member or friend. I’m sure they’ll be more than happy to help you out.

Don’t be afraid to a hire a babysitter from time to time so you can go pamper yourself, enjoy a date night with your spouse or enjoy a glass of wine with your girls. It’ll be so worth the extra expense.

Prep the Night Before

This is particularly helpful when you know how busy of a day you’re going to have the next day. Try prepping for the next day the night before. I’ve been doing this for quite a while now, and although one may think it’s silly to set aside your outfit, gym bag and lunch for the next day, tired you will appreciate it the next morning.




Parenting is no walk in the park, and there aren’t any short cuts to make things easier, but there are small things you can do along the way to better keep yourself sane and allow yourself momentarily laps throughout the day to focus on the things you want to focus on.

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To My Firstborn

Dearest Braxton,

In just a few weeks, you will no longer be an only child. It’s sure to be a transition for you, your father and I, so I can’t help but worry a bit. You’ve been the center of our world for the past 3+ years, and you’ll soon have to share mommy and daddy’s attention with your new baby brother. Before that comes, however; I want you to know a few things that I pray will make this transition easier on us all:

We love you more than you’ll ever truly be able to comprehend. We three have a special bond, but the bond you and I share specifically is something I can’t even begin to describe. You dealt with all of my first-time mom nervous tears, frustrations, mistakes and fumblings, yet you opened your heart to a love only mothers could truly understand.

You’re so incredibly special and important to your daddy and I. I want you to understand that just because you will no longer be our only child, it does not mean that you and your needs are any less important to your father and I. You may have to wait a minute longer so I can care for your baby brother, but I pray you understand that it does not mean you come second to him. You’re a lot bigger and know how to do much more than your baby brother who will be pretty dependent on your daddy and I for a while.

I pray that you understand and tolerate me when I’m tired and cranky. I may lose my patience sometimes, but having a newborn requires a lot of work from mommy as well as daddy. I apologize ahead of time for my crankiness, and please understand that it is no way your fault that I’m the way I am during certain moments. If I snap at you or lose my patience with you, know that I’m sorry and don’t take it personally. I just need some sleep, a bubble bath, a massage and a good glass of wine.

Your daddy and I are so excited to watch you become a big brother. Don’t get me wrong, I’m extremely nervous about being a momma to two boys, I’m even more excited to see you and your baby brother become the best of friends. You truly are the sweetest little boy, and there is no doubt in my mind that you will love and protect your little brother with all that you are. You undoubtedly will teach him how to be rebellious, fearless and a bit of a trouble-maker, but we’re ok with that just as long as you love him.

Although this transition is sure to be scary for all three of us, I can’t wait to witness firsthand the amount of happiness your baby brother will bring to us all. Until he arrives, you better believe we will make the most of the time we have left as a family of three. You’re forever my miracle baby, and I loved you first.


Love always, your momma


31 Things to do this Year

I recently celebrated my 31st birthday, and it was truly an incredible year!  I’m looking forward to this next year, so much so that I have compiled a list of things I want to do! 31 things to be exact!  When I was putting together my list of things I wanted to accomplish within the next year, I took into consideration my family. I already have a a three year old son and we’ll be welcoming our second son in a few weeks, so I wanted to be able to do some things with them as well as with my husband.  That said, here is my list of 31 things I’d like to achieve this year!

  1. Best shape of my life-competition
  2. Watch top 10 movies of all time
  3. Sleep under the stars
  4. Brew my own beer
  5. Go to the Opera
  6. Go Camping
  7. Go to a drive-in movie theater
  8. Ride a horse
  9. Travel by a train
  10. Experience a Christmas tree lighting
  11. Make hot cocoa from scratch
  12. Join Oprah’s book club
  13. Add 5 new clients to BMM
  14. Visit Pictured Rocks
  15. Save $10k
  16. Make bread with my bare hands
  17. Become a couponer
  18. Write down fears-tackle them all
  19. Run ½ marathon
  20. Learn to forgive and let go-practice this daily
  21. Take a picture every day-I’m a few days behind! 🙂
  22. Meditate
  23. Ride in a hot air balloon
  24. Read top 5 novels of all time
  25. Shoot a gun
  26. See the Northern Lights
  27. Bake a pie from scratch
  28. Publish another novel
  29. Publish a second children’s book
  30. Find a mentor
  31. Do something outside my comfort zone

Have you created a list of things you’d like to do this year?

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Happy Father’s Day to the BEST Father Out There!

Early on in our relationship, I remember how much you wanted to be a dad. You could barely wait to become a father, and that  desire is one of the many reasons why I fell so madly in love with you.

We started trying for a family shortly after we got married, yet month after month for two years, I was unable to grant you fatherhood. Your journey to fatherhood would prove to be full of grief, pain, confusion and loss, yet you kept such a positive outlook on life. It took us two years to conceive Braxton, but when that happened, I can’t even begin to express the amount of love and admiration I had for you. Obviously, I already loved you and admired you in ways I couldn’t quite explain, but there is something about seeing the man you love become a father, that you can’t even begin to put into words.

After our son was about 6 months old, we immediately started trying for baby #2. This part of our infertility journey was the hardest, because we experienced a lot of loss, heartache, pain and grief in just  a few months time. After our miscarriage in November, last year, we had pretty much decided to stop trying for children. We were tired of fertility treatment and procedures. We just wanted to live and enjoy life with our toddler.


I still remember that chilly, yet sunny, January morning when I called you in a slight panic. I had taken a pregnancy test, and it was positive. You were shocked as was I. Blood work and an ultrasound later that day would prove we were expecting our second miracle baby. In only a few short months, we will be welcoming our second son, and I cannot wait to see you with both of our boys.

I’m thankful each and every day that our sons are being raised by a man of integrity, faith, compassion, respect and love. I am confidant that our sons will grow to be kind and loving spouses and fathers like you.

Thank you for all of the hours you put in at work in order to provide for our family. Thank you for getting up at 5:30 a.m. to get ready for your 7 a.m. shift and for working nearly 7 days a week each week. Thank you for spending hours a week fixing up our forever home and working outside in our yard. Thank you for playing, supporting, loving and teaching our son so many things. And lastly, thank you for being an amazing husband.

The only thing better than having you as my husband is our sons having you as their father. We are so blessed to have you!

Happy Father’s Day! We ALL love you!



20 Things You Actually Need in Your Hospital Bag

As a momma to one (and another one the way) it’s no surprise that when I was preparing my hospital bag for our first, I did a lot of research and asked a lot of questions from those who had previously given birth. So, what do you pack in a hospital bag? There are wants and needs, but there are also necessities-items you will most certainly need and use during your hospital stay.

Here are some things the hospital provides during your hospital stay. Confirm with your hospital just in case.

  • Mesh underwear– They’re pretty fantastic, considering, so snag a few if you can before you leave.
  • Diapers and wipes– There will be some in your hospital room, but it’s important to pack your own as well.
  • Ice Pack Pads– Your lady parts will be sore, and these bad boys will help soothe them.
  • Spray Bottle– This was a must have for me when I went to the restroom following giving birth. The water helped to dilate the urine and provided some relief from burning.
  • Pacifier: My son LOVED the hospital pacifier, but you might want to bring an extra just in case.

Here are 16 things you’ll want to bring in your hospital bag:

  • Breast Pump– You might not need this right away as a woman’s milk supply can come in at different times, but bring it just in case.
  • Socks– My hospital room was cold, so I was happy to have packed some socks.
  • Phone charger– This is important especially if you plan on keeping your family and friends updated and plan on taking pictures.
  • Loose/Comfy Pants– Make sure you have some comfy pants to wear during your hospital stay. You’ll want to wear some pants with an elastic band that aren’t super tight around your mid section.
  • Nursing/Comfy Shirts & bras– You’re going to be laying/sitting quite a bit, so make sure you have some comfy shirts packed. Having ones that are convenient for nursing are a bonus.
  • Underwear– Grab yourself a few comfy pairs of underwear. Bring some that you’re able to wear a pantyliner with. Grab those pantyliner also! Make sure they’re not super tight, either.
  • Toothbrush and toothpaste– Keep those teeth clean!
  • Clothes for Your Spouse– If your spouse is planning on spending the few days with you in the hospital, make sure to grab him some clothes including pants, shirts, boxers/briefs, PJ’s and socks. My husband did go home the second night to care for our pups and shower, so we only needed a few clothing items for him.
  • Blanket and Clothes for your Newborn– The hospital will provide a sleeper for your baby, but bring some newborn clothes, blanket and some socks for your new addition.
  • Glasses/Contacts– If you wear contacts and/or glasses, make sure you bring them both along with their storage containers and cleaning supplies.
  • Pre-Installed Car Seat– Make sure your car seat has been safely secured BEFORE going to the hospital to make sure it’s in correctly.
  • Reading Material– Like I mentioned earlier, you’ll be sitting/lying during most of your visit, so bring a good book or a few magazines for you and your spouse.
  • Healthy Snacks– You’ll get meals during your stay, but bring some snacks to enjoy for you and your spouse!
  • Boppy– I was so happy I brought our boppy. It made lounging and nursing way more comfortable and convenient.
  • Pantyliner’s– Trust me, just bring some.
  • Deodorant- You don’t want to smell, do you?

Here are some optional items to consider:

  • Make-up– I brought make-up, but some people prefer not to. It’s your choice.
  • Hair Dryer/Brush– These are not provided in your hospital room, so if you want your hair looking nice, consider bringing these items.
  • Bathrobe– Depending on the time of year, you might want to consider bringing your bathrobe. My first son was born in March-the night of a snowstorm- so having one was perfect, but our next son is due in September, so I doubt I’ll bring it this time around.
  • Camera– You can certainly use your smart phone for taking photos, but you might want to consider bringing your main camera as well.


Have your bags packed a few weeks prior to your due date. Our son was over two weeks early, so we were glad to have had our bags packed and ready to go!

Have you given birth before? What did you have in your hospital bag?

6 Difficult Lessons I’ve Learned in Six Years of Marriage

I’d be lying if I said that marriage was easy. It certainly isn’t for the faint of heart. It’s for the ones willing to risk it all who are brave enough to open their hearts to someone else on a level they have never done before.

Finding that person you’re to share the rest of your life with is beautiful and so incredible, and I wouldn’t trade my marriage or my spouse for anything or anyone.

One thing I think I should point out, and you’ve all seen it, is that social media portrays a picture perfect marriage. One without struggle, heartbreak, disagreements, messiness and  hard times. It’s unrealistic and I’m here to set the record straight. Struggles are legitimate and very real. It’s important that everyone has a realistic picture of what marriage is really like.

With that said, here are 6 lessons I’ve learned in my six years of marriage. Lessons that are great and informative and others that are difficult. Either way, regardless of the lesson, they’re important to share.

Date Nights are Planned

Gone are the days when we can have spontaneous moments and date nights. We used to be able to just go out to dinner or leave on a mini road-trip with little or no thought, but now every plan we make, has to be thoroughly discussed and oftentimes planned out days or weeks ahead of time. When we started adding children into the mix, we had to strongly consider if eating out was worth the mess and chaotic scene we would experience at the restaurant. When we want to go away for the weekend, our truck looks as though we’re moving because of all the things we must pack to accommodate our children and our dogs.

Date night includes scheduling out a few days or weeks and ensuring we have a babysitter or family member available to watch our son.

Every moment has to be planned. Spontaneity doesn’t exist anymore for us, so it’s important to make time for each other.

Parenting Adds New Dynamics into Marriage

It’s challenging to be a parent, and there are days my husband and I wonder if we’re failing as parents. Some days I want to lock myself in the closet just to get some quiet time, but the stresses, successes, challenges and triumphs make our marriage that much stronger, yet weaker depending on the day and the season.

We disagree from time to time when it comes to parenting. We get worn down, frustrated and zapped of all energy, which can take a toll on a marriage. There are other times when parenting makes our marriage so much more beautiful, interesting and so full of love that it makes it all worth it. We learn crucial lessons as parents and as spouses to one another.

Finances Become a Heated Argument (at times)

I’m in charge of our finances as far as budget and paying our bills, and as our family grows, budgeting became more challenging. Do you guys have any idea how expensive diapers are? Holy crap, they’re expensive!

With us both working full-time as well as working on our books and running a business on the side, and being parents, it’s important that we sit down and discuss our finances monthly.

When we work together and both have an understanding of our finances, it really allows us to be on the same page and team.

Give Each Other a Break

Work together to give each other a break from time to time. By letting your spouse sleep in on the weekend or help taking on some household chores allowing them to relax and gives them a much needed mental health day.

I always encourage my husband to go out with his friends every few weeks. I know he needs the break from parenting and spousal responsibilities, and he knows that I need the same, so we work together to make this work for us both.

We actually encourage each other to take some time if we need it, even if it’s just a few minutes to enjoy a hot cup of coffee in the morning or escaping to do some hard work for a few hours. We both enjoy a bit of peace without our children, and that’s perfectly OK!

Support and Be there for Each Other Regardless of the Season

One thing we do really well within our marriage is support each other. We have gone through a lot in the 6 years we’ve been married and almost 9 years of being together: loss of a parent, cancer diagnosis of another parent, surgeries, career changes, moves, infertility and infant loss. We’ve been through enough  to break us, yet we have been supportive and been there for each other throughout it all.

My husband is my #1 fan. I’m not just saying that! He truly is so encouraging, supportive, and motivating, and I try to be those things for him as well.

We aren’t perfect and we still lose our tempers and argue at times, but we’re a work in progress. We are grateful to have each other and to have such supportive spouses.

Have an Open Line of Communication and Speak Your Mind

We are both guilty of speaking our minds. Sometimes we do this before thinking about what we’re saying, so there are times when we say things we really didn’t think through first that may be hurtful. We encourage each other to communicate and speak our minds whether it means discussing tough topics, serious topics or light-hearted topics.

Rather than bottling up what’s on my mind and then having it boil up inside of me resulting in an argument that probably wasn’t necessary in the first place, I’m able to avoid it through openly discussing it. I encourage him to do the same! When we’re upset or stressed, I want us to be able to come to each other and talk things out. That’s an incredibly important part of a marriage.


Our marriage is far from perfect, but it’s pretty darn perfect for us. We’ve learned a lot in our six years of marriage that have truly made us stronger. We’ve had our fair share of arguments and challenges, but they’ve only helped us grow closer and learn to work together more!

We continue to work, every day, at strengthening our marriage, planning our future together and regularly discussing our finances, our children and life in general. I’m truly fortunate to be married to my spouse, and I’m looking forward to all that the future has to hold for us!


10 Tips to Stay Madly In Love with Your Spouse

The truth is, I’m madly in love with my spouse. He’s the man I chose to “do” life with, through sickness and in health. We have our share of disagreements and we drive each other mad sometimes, but at the end of the day, we have navigated through this life through 6 years of marriage, 9 years of dating, 1 child and another one the way, multiple career changes and a few moves. It’s been hairy at times, but through it all, we are stronger than in the beginning.



Love is a choice, not just a feeling, and it’s up to us to team up, partner up, parent together and navigate through life no matter what is thrown our way.

So, how have we been able to get through all of the ups and downs and remain so in love? Here are 10 tips or suggestions on staying madly in love with your spouse.

  1. Show Gratitude:  Thank each other daily for the individual tasks and duties being done by each other.
  2. Encourage One Another: Be each others biggest fans. Motivate and encourage each other daily!
  3. Don’t Compete: Don’t try to one and up each other. Parenting is not a competition, and it’s pointless to compare whose day was harder.
  4. Accept your Body: Don’t beat up your body in front of your spouse. My husband thoroughly dislikes when I criticize my body because he loves my body regardless of the season (pregnancy or non-pregnancy). He did marry me when I was almost 20 pounds heavier. 🙂
  5. Men, tell your Wife she’s Beautiful: This small gesture truly does go a long way. Compliment her mind and body.
  6. Be Affectionate: Make sure to start each and every day with a hug and kiss. The affection will be appreciated after a long day, and it may lead to even more affection!
  7. Make Time for one Another: Life is busy especially when you add kids into the mix. Try and secure a day each week where you can devote time for each other without kids. If once a week is too difficult, aim for twice a month.  This will allow you to reconnect on a relationship level.
  8. Be Patient with Each Other: We’re humans and we all make mistakes. Instead of being impatient with your spouse, grow and learn together.
  9. Protect your Marriage: There will always be outside influences who might threaten your marriage, but it’s important to actively protect your marriage and your spouse from such attacks.
  10. Respect Each Other: One of the most important things you can do in your relationship is to respect each other. Without respect, you’re left with very little.


This is merely a benchmark to strive for in marriage, and although my husband and I don’t have them all down yet, we are certainly working towards it. When you’re constantly putting effort towards enriching, growing and enhancing your marriage, your children, your spouse and yourself will greatly benefit from it.


10 Ways to Raise a Happier Kid

We all want our kids to grow up happy, right? There are simple things we can do each and every day to ensure just that.

Here are 10 ways to raise a happier kid:

  1. Point out their Strengths by Complimenting them: Always make sure to compliment them on the things they’re good at. Compliment them and let them know how much you admire them for that strength.
  2. Let them Express their Feelings Openly: Let your child express their feelings regardless of if it’s frustration, happiness or some other feeling. This will reinforce the fact that you’re there for them and are there to listen to them and offer advice when needed.
  3. Avoid too much Screen Time: Encourage your child to enjoy the outdoors. This is pretty easy if you’re willing to be out there with them or if they have other kids their age nearby. By limiting their screen time, they are more likely to be more active. My husband and I both grew up outdoors, so it’s important for our children to also be outside as much as possible.
  4. Encourage their Friendships with other Great Kids: Encourage play-dates with other good kids. This reinforces good behavior and helps minimize the amount of facetime they could possibly have with kids that might not be the greatest influence on them.
  5. Teach them how to Pay Attention to Other’s Feelings: By teaching them how to understand other’s feelings, it’ll teach your child how to better communicate with them and possibly help them.
  6. Truly Listen to them when they’re Talking: We’re all guilty of it: Your child comes home from school and is so excited to tell you all about their day, but you’re still responding to work emails. This will make them feel  unimportant and over time they might be less likely to open up to you about things.
  7. Eat Dinner as a Family: Eating dinner as a family is a great time to have a conversation, discuss each other’s day and just spend time together. Sometimes it can be hard, but try to make it a point to do so.
  8. Have a Movie Night once a Week where they Pick the Movie or Have a fun Family outing: Try to have a movie night once a week where your child gets to pick it out. If you want to go out and do something, you can skip the movie night and hit the local miniature golf course. Just make sure you’re spending time together.
  9. Let Your Happiness Show: If you’re happy and you know it, share it! If your kid sees your happiness, it’s much easier for them to express their happiness.
  10. Reward them for Good Behavior or Grades: If your child is doing something great, try rewarding them every once in a while. If they’re maintaining good grades, take them out for their favorite ice cream. Whatever it might be, let them know you’ve noticed. This will reinforce the good behavior and let them know you’re paying attention.

If you practice these 10 tips, your child is more likely to be happy. There is enough negativity in the world, so lets try our best to make the world a bit brighter for our kiddos by showing them happiness.