Things that One Should Never Say to a Deaf Person
Living in a world where communication is a vital aspect of our everyday lives, it can be challenging for people with hearing impairments to feel included and also understood. While advancements in technology have made it possible for people with hearing loss to access various communication tools, there are still some insensitive things that people say to deaf individuals, which can be hurtful and isolating.
Here are some things that one should never say to a deaf person:
- “Can’t you just read my lips?”
While lip-reading is an essential skill for deaf or hard of hearing individuals, it is not always easy or effective. Not all words can be easily distinguished by reading lips, especially in situations with poor lighting or when the speaker has a beard or mustache. Moreover, asking a deaf person to read your lips can be exhausting, and it puts an undue burden on them. During the COVID-19 pandemic, lip reading was especially challenging because the mask requirements made it nearly impossible to lip-read.
- “You’re not really deaf, are you?”
This statement is insensitive and hurtful. It dismisses the reality of their hearing loss and implies that they are pretending or exaggerating their condition. It is crucial to respect their identity and accept their communication needs. Be accepting of their hearing loss, and don’t make them feel like it’s a burden.
- “I’m sorry, I don’t know sign language.”
While it is understandable that not everyone knows sign language, apologizing for it can make a deaf or hard-of-hearing person feel like they are inconveniencing others. Instead, you can ask if there are alternative methods of communication that they prefer, such as writing or using a speech-to-text app.
- “Let me speak louder, maybe you’ll hear me.”
Hearing loss is not always a matter of volume. It can range from mild to severe; some people may not benefit from increased volume. Instead, it is better to face the deaf person, speak clearly, and consider using simple language. Yelling or talking loudly is almost offensive.
- “You don’t sound deaf.”
This statement is misguided and implies that there is a particular way that deaf people should sound. It is essential to understand that deaf individuals can have different levels of hearing loss and may speak differently, depending on their background and communication preferences.
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In conclusion, communication is a fundamental aspect of human interaction, and it is crucial to be mindful of the words we use, especially when interacting with people with hearing impairments. It is essential to acknowledge their needs, respect their identity, and be open to alternative methods of communication. Doing so can create a more inclusive and empathetic society for everyone. As a mother of a deaf son, these are important things I wish everyone understands and accepts.
