5 Universal Truths for Moms When They Feel Like They are Failing

“MOMMA” I hear my child scream for the millionth time in the last 10 minutes. It clearly sounds like someone is seriously hurt, again, so I rush into the room as quickly as I can dropping what I was doing in that moment.

My oldest is sitting on top of my youngest, yanking at a toy that they are fighting over, yet again.

I feel my temples pulsating as I try to control the anger beginning to flare up.

I’m over it. The screaming. Ohhhh the screaming, the arguments..the temper tantrums and the having to ask ten millions times for my kids to listen. Why can’t they just listen?

Don’t even get my started on understanding why they can’t just get along. Why is it that hard?

This season is hard. This part of life, this part of my life is so damn hard.

I know I’m not alone. Please tell me I’m not alone.

Parenthood is hard. Motherhood is hard. It’s draining. It’s exhausting and it will test your patience to the limits daily. And if you’re like me, there are days where you feel like you are failing. Some days, I wonder if I was meant to be a mother. I clearly can’t handle it some days.

My house is usually a mess. It’s typically very loud and out of control. Im shocked my neighbors haven’t called CPS yet. I lose my temper far too many times, and my kids cry for individual attention that I am unable to provide for them for a multitude of reasons.

No matter how hard I try, the day gets the best of me. Even though I wake up with the best of intentions, the day just doesn’t go as planned. I even outline what activities I want to do each week, yet we barely achieve any of them. Failure again.

Some days I live for playtime and adventure with the kids, while others I watch the clock, impatiently, tick closer towards their bedtime. Some days, like me, I’m sure you feel like you’re failing as a mother.

When you’re having these thoughts, I want to remind you of 5 universal truths. These 5 truths are for those moms you feel like they are failing, when you are realistically killing it at motherhood and you need to hear these truths!

One Day Does Not Define Their Entire Childhood

Bad days are going to happen. Bad decisions and choices are made that we won’t be proud. Our children will say hurtful things as will we, but none of those things will define our children’s childhood. More than likely, our children won’t even remember these bad days. Don’t stress out too much about these bad days.

The Fact that You THINK that You’re Failing, Just PROVES how Amazing of a Mother You Truly Are

Keep this mind. You care a lot about how great of a mother you are just by questioning your own parenting. Motherhood is hard. Sure, it’d be easy to throw up your hands and give up, yet here we are showing up day after day preparing for battle. Quite literally, some days. You care. You’re a good momma.

Your Failures Do Not Define You

We will never know everything there is to know about parenting. We will never know how to be the perfect mother. For one, a perfect mother doesn’t exist. And two, striving for perfection will only cause you to be more anxious than anything at all. Learning and growing is a continuous process, and we must remind ourselves of this daily. Give yourself some grace to fail. Give yourself some grace to learn from your mistakes.

You were created to be a mother. You were entrusted with these little humans for a reason, so trust that you are capable of handling whatever it thrown your way. You got this, momma!

This is just a Season!

This is such a true statement. This is just a small season in a much bigger season, so enjoy it while it lasts. Enjoy the suck. Enjoy it all, because one day you’re going to miss it all. This is a season full of failures, small and big victories, joys, adventures, sorrows and literally everything in between.

Keep in mind that it’s ok to struggle. Struggles are very very real, but they look different on us all. It’s ok to have a rough day or rough week, but remind yourself that it’s a season.

Don’t Give Yourself Unrealistic Expectations

The internet is full of expectations that are not realistic. There are no ‘perfect’ moms.

Yet, there are some moms out there who claim to have it all together and will happily share their perfect, yet unrealistic lives. Such unrealistic lives might include their perfectly mannered children who clean up after themselves, eat their food without argument, listen without back-talking and do their homework without tears. The mother might never show a sign of tiredness, stress, anxiety, etc.

Ladies, this is unrealistic. Ignore these unrealistic expectations.

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Give yourself some grace. Motherhood is tough. Remember these 5 truths the next time you are struggling with the thought of yourself being a failure. You’re not a failure. You are doing the best you can, and your children appreciate you whether they show it or not. You are a superwoman.