The Biggest Things I Learned This Year
As the year draws to a close, I find myself reflecting on the lessons life has thrown my way. Some were gentle nudges, while others hit like a ton of bricks. Through it all, these takeaways have shaped me and my outlook on life. Here are the biggest lessons I’ve learned this year:
1. Family Should Always Come First
No matter what life throws at you, family is the cornerstone that keeps you grounded. They’re the ones who have your back, who cheer you on, and who remind you who you are when you’ve forgotten. This year taught me to cherish those bonds and never take them for granted. I lost two grandparents this year, and honestly, I wish I had done more to see them because now I can’t, and I’ll live with that fact for the remainder of my life.
2. Don’t Rely on Others to Make You Happy
Happiness is an inside job. Relying on others to fill that void often leads to disappointment. This year, I’ve learned that I have to bring the happy—it’s my responsibility to cultivate joy, even in the smallest moments.
3. Stop Settling for Less Than You Deserve
Settling—whether it’s in relationships, career, or life goals—only holds you back. This year, I decided to stop accepting mediocrity. It’s not easy, but the freedom and fulfillment that come from knowing your worth make it all worth it.
4. Go Where You Are Welcomed, Not Where You Are Comfortable
Comfort zones are deceptive. They may feel safe, but they often stifle growth. I’ve learned to seek out spaces where I’m welcomed and appreciated rather than sticking to familiar, yet unfulfilling, places.
5. Be Careful Who You Trust
Trust is a precious commodity, and not everyone is deserving of it. Unfortunately, there are people who will use you to make themselves look better. This year, I’ve become more discerning about who I let into my inner circle.
6. Stop Waiting for the Right Time
The “right time” is an illusion. Waiting for the perfect moment often leads to endless delays. This year, I’ve embraced the philosophy of “If you’re going to jump, jump.” Time isn’t waiting for any of us, so why should we?
7. You Aren’t Getting Any Younger
This one hit hard. Time is precious, and it’s slipping by faster than I’d like. Whether it’s pursuing a dream, taking a risk, or mending a relationship, now is the time to act. Life is too short to keep putting things off.
8. Stop Wearing Emotions on Your Sleeve
This is one I still need to work on. It’s important to feel your emotions, but wearing them on your sleeve can make you vulnerable in ways that aren’t always productive. Learning to balance emotional openness with emotional boundaries has been a key takeaway.
9. Be Okay With Taking Medications to Feel Okay
There’s a stigma surrounding medications, but this year taught me to prioritize feeling like the best version of myself. Sometimes, that means accepting help in the form of medication, and that’s okay.
10. Learn to Slow Down
When you’re always on the go, it leads to burnout, sickness, and more. Slowing down isn’t just about resting; it’s about giving yourself the space to recover and thrive. This year, I’ve learned to honor my limits and prioritize self-care.
11. Not Everyone Is Your Friend
This year taught me to distinguish between genuine connections and superficial ones. Not everyone has your best interests at heart, and that’s okay. Focus on the relationships that truly matter.
12. Give Yourself Some Grace
2024 was hard for me. In my first year of surgical menopause, I’ve never felt more like a stranger in my own body. I’ve gained weight, experienced brain fog, fatigue, and chronic pain more than ever before. Through it all, I’ve learned to extend myself grace and compassion. This year reminded me that it’s okay to not be okay and that slowing down is sometimes the best gift you can give yourself.
13. Focus on Mental Health
Mental health is just as important as physical health, if not more so. This year, I’ve learned to take the time to address my mental well-being through therapy, mindfulness, and setting boundaries. It’s a continuous journey, but prioritizing mental health has made me stronger and more resilient.
14. Create Boundaries
Creating boundaries is essential for protecting your energy and well-being. This year, I’ve learned to say no without guilt, to communicate my needs clearly, and to enforce limits when necessary. Boundaries aren’t about keeping people out; they’re about ensuring your relationships are healthy and balanced.
These lessons have challenged me to grow, to reevaluate my priorities, and to step into a version of myself I’m proud of. Life will always have its ups and downs, but armed with these truths, I’m ready to face whatever comes next.
