Model,Rachael Finch, sparks debate after discussing weekend parenting routine
Model Rachel Finch recently admitted that she and her husband spends every weekend without their daughter. She has claimed that by dropping her daughter off at her mother- in-law’s home every weekend has allowed her to focus on her marriage to her spouse. She has received a lot of criticism, but is her reasoning for doing this justified?
Finch says that her and her husband take the time on the weekends away from their daughter to work on their marriage and spend quality time together. I understand that spending time with your spouse is important, but is it affecting their daughter? I also understand that having grandparents actively involved in their grandchild’s life is important as well.
The amount of backlash she has received over the past few days is overwhelming. Many of the comments suggest that she and her husband are being selfish while others question their parenting style all together. Others have even supported their decision. Finch thinks dropping her daughter off every weekend is “incredibly healthy for the relationship.” She also says that when her and her husband pick their daughter up on Sunday, they “have 100 percent energy back.”
She also recently went onto Instagram to defend her decision “A Mother should never be made to feel they are not good enough for their child when they are doing everything they can to keep them safe, happy and loved. Only the parents of a child truly know what is best and should always have faith in their decisions. I value dearly the relationship Violet has with her Grandmother and I believe this is one of the most important and influential relationships growing up. I work hard so that I can provide the best future for the amazing soul we have created. I won’t ever stop believing in her or the strength of the family unit.”
There are plenty of people who disagree with what her and her husband are doing and have been quick to respond to her picture. One commentator named MandaLouise said, “Every weekend? Really? Yep I’m judging your parenting. Grow up and stop being selfish. Aren’t weekends for family? Especially your children?!?” Another one, Ryderzmaaa said, “Please do not have any kids. Cherish the weekends with them. She is only going to remember her grandparents and not her parents except for the Instagram pictures you put up to make it seem like you care.”
There are also comments from supporters, like a woman named Susie H. who said, “They say it takes a village to raise a child. Your little girl is lucky to have so many loving people in her life. Your situation is one many parents wish they could have. A happy balanced life. I think that makes you good parents.”
As of May 14th, she has received 3,968 likes and 419 comments.
What are your thoughts on Rachel Finch and her husband dropping their daughter off at her grandma’s house every weekend? Do you support her and think they’re being selfish?
First, I had no idea who Rachel Finch was so I googled her. Ok, that done…people are going to have their opinions based on many things: how they were raised (good or bad), their biases about what a mother/parent/family relationship should be, and their own personal dogmas. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and what matters is what her relationship is with her child and how balanced her child is. Does her child feel cheated by this? Many couples, when they have children, pour 100% into their children and put their relationship as a couple on the back burner thinking there will be time for that when the child is 18. Two flaws to that thinking: #1 you can’t ignore a marriage for 18+ years and think you can just pick up after that and it will be ok…relationship have to be nurtured (constantly) so this isn’t just about your child, and #2 when that child reaches 18 guess what…you’re still a parent and there will still be demands on you because you’re STILL a parent. I feel that, if it’s working for them, the relationship with the spouse AND the child are not suffering, then it’s what’s right for them. Maybe not right for everyone but that’s an individual choice. The one comment about it taking a village to raise a child…I have always loved that phrase. Children do need their grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins, etc. Everyone should know their place as in, grandparents do NOT need to be telling parents how to raise their children band should always respect the boundaries the parents have set for their children without exception. Each other person in the child’s life has something to contribute and should keep their status in that child’s life in perspective. If it works for Rachel and her marriage and family stays strong for doing this then I say, CARRY ON!