I’d like to think that I make my husband a priority, but when I really think about it, I realize I do put a lot of things before him. I feel more disconnected from him the more I push him down my priority list. I don’t think it’s something I do intentionally, but it does happen.
Life is busy! We have a three year old and another little boy on the way, we have our jobs, family, friends, projects, to-do lists, errands, bills, workouts etc., and it’s easy to get so caught up in these things that we lose sight of what is truly important. We try to seek balance by clearing our plate from time to time, but sometimes that’s not easy. I think it’s incredibly important to prioritize our husbands. I know how great it feels when he makes me a priority, so it’s only fair to do the same for him.
I’ve been really thinking about what it means to be a kind wife lately, and I’ve come up with a few recommendations to do just that. I challenge you to be kind to your husband.
Make him feel special. It’s important that he knows that you admire and respect him. Treat him the same exact way you’d treat someone really important because he is just, if not more, important.
List of Affirmations. Take time to make a list of things you admire about your husband. Tell him these things all the time day after day. Affirming him lets him know that you still find him attractive, to be hard-working, a great father and husband, etc.
Choose your Battles. Shrug off tiny irritations. It’s so incredibly easy to let tiny irritants snowball leading to arguments, but try to weigh the true importance of the issue. If it’s truly not a big issue, then choose to let it go, instead of letting it cause an argument.
Apologize. If you know that you’re in the wrong, be the bigger person and apologize. Don’t wait for him to make the first move.
Greet Him and Ask about His day. Give him a hug and a kiss every time he comes in the door. Ask about his day and genuinely listen to him. Let him know that you’re happy to see him.
Confide in Him. If you need some advice with anything going on within your life, whether personal or work-related, incorporate his opinions as much as possible. Ask him what he thinks and make sure you let him know that his thoughts, advice and opinions matter to you and are genuinely welcomed.
Bring him Coffee or his Favorite drink. My husband works most weekends, so on the weekends that he doesn’t work, I try to go out of my way to bring him coffee in bed. I also try to make a nice breakfast just as gesture of my appreciation and love for all his hard-work.
Be Appreciative. Make sure that you’re thanking him for all that he does whether small or large. Make him feel appreciated and tell him why you appreciate him. Try to do this daily.
Focus on Him. We’re all guilty of being tied to our phones. Make it a point to give him your undivided attention.
Give him Guy Time. Encourage him to go and spend time with his guy friends. He’s earned it. If you allow him to have guy time, he’ll encourage you to go out with your girls.
Respect Him. Treat him with the ultimate respect always. Watch what you say and do.
Make Yourself Available. Ask him what he needs from you right now. Offer to help him pack his lunch, fold his laundry or something else he hasn’t gotten around to do. He’ll appreciate it!
Little Things. Remember the little things. Make it a point to cook him his favorite meal from time to time, leave him a little note for him to find in his car when he leaves for work or something else that lets him know you love him and are thinking about him.
Read books on Relationships. Read books from experts who have thriving marriages so that you can learn from them and also have thriving marriages.
There are many ways to be kind to your husband, but these are a few ways I’ve learned work to do just that. What other ways have you been kind to your husband?